So the girl you are trying to chat up smiles at you. Wow, she must like you, you think, so you keep on with the line of conversation you've chosen, believing it to be working. And you get nowhere! What happened? She was smiling, wasn't she? She must have liked you. Well this can happen when you try to pick up girls. Was the smile real or a fake?
A smile is generally a reflex gesture responding to signals from the brain. It is basically a submissive gesture that tells people we are no threat or we mean them no harm. It is used to gain acceptance on a friendly level and to put people at ease. The idea is then to pave the way for the future relationship.
Reflex or not, it can be abused. How often have you seen politicians pictured with their rivals and they both have these huge grins on their faces, when just last week at the party conference they were calling each other all kinds of names? Yes, the smiles are faked because they want the other one (and the public) to believe they like them and the future is bright. And women are better at it then men, unfortunately, stemming from the fact they are natural conciliators and like to sort things out without a fight.
Oh dear, so a girl isn't likely to tell you to get lost because she is probably looking for a quiet way out. The smile will be so as not to hurt your feelings. One to watch out for is the tight-lipped smile that doesn't show the teeth. Her she is hiding an emotion and using the smile to do it. Other women will see it as an obvious sign of rejection.
To read a genuine smile look for open lips and wrinkles around the eyes. The eye bit is important because the muscles at work her are responding to signals from the brain and are much harder to fake. You would have to be a professional liar to get that right every time.
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